I really didn’t want to blog this disaster, but now that Demi’s addiction has entered the story I feel compelled to voice my opinion. Who didn’t see this marriage ending when it first began? The age difference alone was enough to set off red flags everywhere. Sure Demi looks great for her age, she always has. But, Ashton is 16 years younger than she is and 16 years is a huge gap between a man and a woman, especially at the ages they got married. She was 42 and he was 27, at the time they married 6 years ago. She already lived half her life, married and raised a family. He was barely fully cooked and always appeared to be immature. Why on earth would she think that a marriage to him would stand the test of time? I am surprised it lasted as long as it did.
Now she is in the hospital from doing “whip-its” or inhaling a nitrous oxide. She supposedly had a seizure and was semiconscious. Now she is in a treatment facility for substance abuse, but half the media is reporting that she is there due to exhaustion. Let’s keep it real. Will we ever have the true story? This is like the question what came first, the chicken or the egg? Did his immature behavior and cheating drive her to drug use or did her drug use drive him out of the marriage to cheating? You don’t develop a substance abuse problem overnight. And what kind of drug is nitrous oxide? It’s hard to say what is true and maybe, after rehab, Demi will explain things herself.
Friends say Ashton is “acting like a teenage boy.” Well, what’s new about that? Hasn’t he always acted that way? And Demi was always appeared to be mature, as she should be in her forties. It was like she was his mother instead of his wife. And the story goes that Ashton was having multiple affairs and she put up with a lot, giving him the benefit of the doubt time and time again. I think Demi married the man she wanted Ashton to be, not the man he was. Maybe she was hoping he would fix what was broken inside her, only to find herself in more despair.
I do feel bad for Demi. I heard that she said she was afraid she would die without anyone ever loving her. That statement speaks volumes about her own self worth and how hard she is taking this break-up. But feelings like this don't develop from one or two bad relationships, I think this goes way back to her childhood. Maybe it's something she has been carrying around inside her, hoping another person could change it, when it's something she really needs to work on herself.
Then again, maybe celebrities shouldn’t marry other celebrities. It seems that it rarely works out for one reason or another. Maybe they should take a page out of Meryl Streeps book. Marry a regular person; live in a normal place; raise your family and keep them out of the limelight; take jobs that do not require you to be away from your spouse and family; and turn down acting jobs when they interfere with your personal life. It seems to work for her and she is one of the outstanding actresses of our time, in my opinion.
What do you think?