Thursday, January 27, 2011

Attention-Seeking Adults...

A group of people I have encountered online fall into this category. When adults seek to be the center of attention it is clearly a sign of immaturity. They tend to have low feelings of self-esteem and self-worth and they need reassurance from others. Sometimes they are jealous of the attention others are getting and feel threatened. The there are those who overconfident and full of themselves and think they are entitled to be the center of attention because what they have to say is more important than what anyone else has to say. The world revolves around attention seekers!

As always, curiosity got the better of me so I decided to do a little research on this group of people and found they fall into many specific categories. So many in fact, I started thinking maybe I was in one of them too! Here is a short version of what is in the link below, very interesting:

The suffer is one who makes up or exaggerates illness to manipulate people into giving them sympathy.

The savior causes harm to another person with the intention of “saving” them to appear caring and compassionate, whether they like the person or not.

The rescuer will rush in and rescue someone in trouble and then enjoy the attention showered on them for their actions.

The organizer acts like they are the one in charge who everyone can go to in order to be the center of attention.

The manipulator causes emotional harm by twisting information and using guilt and then claiming they are the victim.

The mind-poisoner tells lies about their target to other people to poison their minds about them.

The drama queen blows up every minor incident a major crisis.

The busy-bee gives a detailed account of all her activities, yet she is always at the computer giving updates.

The feigner is the person when outwitted or challenged to be accountable for their actions, uses denial and cries they are the victim.

There are several other categories mentioned in the article. I know several of these “types” online as well as in real life. Since their emotional level is that of a child, I don’t know whether to be annoyed by their behavior or feel sorry for them. They may not even be aware of why they are so desperately seeking attention.

At least now I have some criteria to categorize them with and I’ll keep my eyes open for their toxic behaviors.


  1. Parents who are perpetually dissatisfied by teachers' efforts to program for their child and who claim special circumstances, disorders and undiagnosed syndromes which are not professionally diagnosed are, themselves, demonstrating attention seeking behaviours which ultimately harm their child by planting ideas that reflect the parents problems of low self esteem or sense of aggrandisement.

  2. could "the rescuer" also be trying to do good but love the attention they get for doing t